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Emotions and Behavior

What is ADHD

Many mentors have experienced, at one time or another, a mentee who just couldn't sit still, had endless energy, and lacked the ability to focus.  While these behaviors are sometimes associated with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), the disorder itself is much more complex and requires careful consideration.   To help mentors better understand ADHD, March’s [...]

Trauma & The Brain

How Does Trauma Affect The Brain? How Does Trauma Affect The Brain? Trauma causes the brain to function from the "survival center." Trauma responses come from the autonomic nervous system. When students are faced with a perceived threat they will go into a flight, fight, or freeze response. These traumatic responses make it difficult for [...]

Transitions: Tips for Mentors

In a normal school year, transitioning to a new school (such as Elementary to Middle or Middle to High school) can be daunting. COVID has only compounded anxiety about any changes, and that’s before considering things like returning to full classrooms. Many of our students have experienced more moves than usual directly as a result [...]

The Holidays and Practicing Gratitude

Navigating the holidays in a mentoring relationship can be tricky. As Seedling mentors, we are sensitive to the fact that some households may not celebrate holidays we hold dear. This reality might be due to religious practice, financial distress or family strife. The safest and most effective open-ended questions on the topic are: “What do [...]

Ten Ways To Make Mentoring Effective For Kids with ADD/ADHD

Presented By Linda S. Classen, M. Ed., LPC Core Symptoms of ADHD: Poor sustained attention/vigilance to boring/routine tasks Impulsive/ age inappropriate focus/difficulty with self-regulation Diminished rule governed behavior Immaturity Disorganization Poor sense of time Difficulty with fine motor skills 50 to 70% chance of co-morbid condition(s) such as Dyslexia, Dysgraphia, Dyscalculia, Anxiety, Depression, Tourette’s Syndrome, [...]

Talking About Current Events

We’ve all been shaken by the acts of violence that took place this week in Washington D.C. and at several state capitals across the nation.  The violent actions have left a significant impact on us as a nation and as individuals and may lead to conversations during your mentoring time. We are already carrying so [...]

Somatic Experiencing and Mentoring

“The super-power of human kind is our capacity to connect; it is regulating, rewarding, and the major route by which we can teach, coach, parent, heal, mentor and learn.” Dr. Bruce Perry At Seedling we often refer to our mentors as having “super powers.”  You have that uncanny ability to light up the face of [...]

Shame, Guilt, And The Power Of Empathy

The words guilt and shame are often used interchangeably, but there are major psychological differences between the two: Guilt is a common feeling of emotional distress that signals us when our actions or inactions have caused or might cause harm to another person. Guilty feelings relate to others. Shame is that painful feeling or experience [...]

Recognizing and Responding to the Effects of Trauma

The National Council for Behavioral Health reports that 70% of adults in the US have experienced some type of traumatic event at least once in their lives, that’s 223.4 million people.  As Seedling mentors, we must be mindful that many of our mentees have already experienced a traumatic event affecting their everyday life. Recognizing this [...]

Recognizing & Reporting Child Abuse

Knowing the signs and behaviors that indicate something might be wrong in a child’s life is important information for caring adults and mentors, as it is our obligation to keep kids safe from harm and mistreatment. It is up to adults to recognize when something doesn’t seem right and speak up. Knowing how to recognize [...]

Processing Racism-Related Trauma through Creative Expression

In the last few years, our country has begun confronting racism and racial injustice on a scale that we haven’t seen since the Civil Rights Movement of the late 1960s. Understanding the history, scope, and implications of systemic racism is a complicated undertaking for all of us. Expressing our feelings about it can be even [...]

Mentoring and the Art of Validation

“When little people are overwhelmed by big emotions, it is our job to share our calm, not join their chaos”  -L.R. Knost As Seedling mentors, our goal is to be a trusted friend, boost our mentee’s positive self-esteem and safeguard their opportunity to thrive!   We believe that with time, commitment, and a lot of heart, [...]

Managing Stress

For over a year now, we have been navigating extreme uncertainty.  The hyper vigilance of staying safe, piloting constant change, and the effects of isolation and loneliness, have taken a toll.  Fears and insecurity can create chronic stress which negatively impacts mental health. Stress levels are at an all-time high for young people too! As [...]

Kids Who Experience Trauma

Most of us are familiar with grief. It is often something we are comfortable showing and thus sharing. It entails feelings of sadness and often loss. Trauma on the other hand is something that often remains hidden, something that is dealt with privately, many times without sharing with others. For our mentees, this can increase [...]

It’s Important

Given the significant social, environmental, and political events of the past year, it may feel like it’s more important now than ever to spend time with your mentee simply talking about their feelings to process all of the changes we’re experiencing. We always encourage you to follow your mentee’s lead, and if they want to [...]

It Matters: Building Representation in Mentoring Relationships

On January 20, 2021, Kamala Harris was sworn in as Vice President, becoming the first woman, the first Black American, and the first South Asian American to hold the office. The importance of the moment was not lost – across social media, posts celebrating this historical event peppered the internet with a familiar ring of, [...]

Is It Bullying?

In a recent Washington Post article on parenting, author Braden Bell presented his perspective on why it is important for children (as well as parents and caring adults) to be able to differentiate between mean or unkind behavior and bullying.  As a teacher, Bell deals with both on a regular basis. He began to notice [...]

How The Nine Temperament Traits Affect Behavior

Sensitivity Sensitivity High sensitivity children are like radios with the antennas up, only they are not picking up just one station but ALL the stations at once. Sensitive children may notice everything from the tag in their tee-shirt to the temperature of their milk. They often perceive minute changes in their environments. Because of this, [...]

Fighting Racism Through Mindfulness

Jill Suttie of Greater Good Magazine, interviews Law Professor Rhonda Magee on how mindfulness-based awareness and compassion is key to racial justice work.  For more than two decades Professor Rhonda Magee has worked to address issues of race, racism, and identity-based conflict while teaching law at the University of San Francisco.  Teaching students about the [...]

Feelings and Behavior Go Together

Helping children understand the link between feelings and behavior can help them learn how our feelings can affect the choices we make, and can improve children’s self-control. It can also improve their ability to recognize feelings in others in order to empathize and avoid misinterpretation. The Steps Think about what happened. Think of how your [...]

Empathy – Perhaps The Greatest Human Regulator

On Thursday, January 24, 2019, Dr. Bruce Perry and Dr. J. Stuart Ablon spoke to AISD staff, students, and partnering organizations about their current research and work on The Collaborative Problem Solving Approach, a model that has shown great “effectiveness with children and adolescents with a wide range of social, emotional, and behavioral challenges.” Dr. [...]

Emotional Vocabulary List

ANGER, APATHY, and HATRED Soft Anger and Apathy Annoyed Apathetic Bored Certain Cold Crabby Cranky Critical Cross Detached Displeased Frustrated    Impatient Indifferent Irritated Peeved Rankle Medium (or Mood State) Anger Affronted Aggravated Angry Antagonized Arrogant Bristling Exasperated Incensed Indignant Inflamed Mad Offended Resentful Riled up Sarcastic Intense Anger and Hatred Aggressive Appalled Belligerent Bitter Contemptuous [...]

Cultivating Patience

Lately, it seems like everything in the world is happening at once. It’s easy to get caught up in the rush of deadlines, news, and the daily grind, and feel like we have to demonstrate tangible success every day. Research of human growth and development tells us that sometimes the best groundwork for cultivating relationships [...]

Coping With Stress

The school year is upon us and, in any normal year, that often brings its own stress and anxiety. Of course, 2020 has proven to be anything but normal. How can we cope with the stress of all of the uncertainty that dominates our current landscape? We’ve put together a list of tips and resources [...]

Child Abuse & Neglect

It’s hard to imagine someone intentionally hurting a child. Yet reports that nearly 1 million children are abused every year in the United States alone. This staggering figure reflects only confirmed cases of child abuse. Kids Health says, “many more cases are unreported and undetected, often because children are afraid to tell somebody who [...]

Building The Six C’s Of Positive Youth Development

CONNECTION CONNECTION Positive bonds with people, including peers, family, school, and community, that provide a sense of structure, safety, and belonging Spend time learning each other’s likes and interests and connect over shared interests or experiences.   Follow the child’s lead as they set boundaries about what they want to share and when. Find out [...]

Anger Iceberg

For a full length article on The Anger Iceberg, go to The Gottman Institute website.

A Closer Look At Trauma

Emotional and psychological trauma is the result of extraordinarily stressful events that shatter one’s sense of security. For our mentees, witnessing a parent’s arrest, being physically removed from home to live with a relative or an unfamiliar foster parent, not knowing where the parent is, or when they might return are emotionally traumatic experiences that [...]

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