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Mentoring Essentials

What Is A Mentor?

Three​ ​key​ ​roles​ ​mentors​ ​play​ ​in​ ​their​ ​mentor/mentee​ ​relationship​ ​include: Adult​ ​Friend​-​ ​building​ ​a​ ​relationship​ ​where​ ​you​ ​are​ ​a​ ​trusted​ ​adult​ ​friend​ ​to​ ​your​ ​mentee​ ​includes: o Consistency o Working towards equal power in the relationship o Honoring rules and guidelines of your mentee’s parents and caregivers o Validating your mentee’s feelings Being a caring [...]

The Importance of Play

Want to play a game? Seedling believes in the magic of play. Research tells us that engaging in “play” gives us a wonderful opportunity to learn about ourselves and others.  Engaging in creative games and activities with your mentee produces countless benefits to your mentor/mentee relationship.  As communication happens through facial expressions, laughter, and body [...]

Setting Mentoring Boundaries With Skill

We have all been there at one point or another...finding it easier to bring our mentee food each week to avoid the school lunch line, giving in to the urge of buying our mentee a new toy or something we notice they need.  In isolation these allowances seem harmless. However, giving in here and there, [...]

Seedling Mentoring, Work of Heart

Being a mentor is not only an investment of time, but also of heart. Seedling understands this and works to support you as your mentoring relationship progresses. Through the process of building a trusted friendship with a young person, mentors will experience proud moments, shared laughs, and major breakthroughs. However, mentoring can also bring instances [...]

Policies And Procedures At A Glance

Contact with children must occur only at school You may visit before, during, or after school with permission of school staff. Mentoring contact via email, phone, texting, or social media is not permissible. Should the Seedling Foundation or your assigned school decide to sponsor an off-site event, contact with your mentee at this event would be [...]

Mentoring Together

Mentoring has the wonderful capacity to advance a mentee’s development or even change his/her life in a remarkable way.  It is a responsibility and an honor that must be approached with integrity and commitment. These ethics are not only expected of the Seedling mentor, but also of Seedling.  As we take the steps to make [...]

Mentoring And Attendance

Good attendance is important for children to do well in school and eventually in the workplace. Absences – excused and unexcused – add up, resulting in too much time lost in the classroom. In fact, missing just 10% of the school year, just 18 days or two to three days per month, in the early [...]

Making The Most Of Always

When we invite mentors to describe the mentors of their own youthful experience, the sentences frequently begin, “He would always…” In our annual survey question asking mentees to name the best thing about the mentor, students often start with “She always…” When anyone reminisces about friends of the past, the stories may start, “We would [...]

Ethics In Mentoring

In the specially defined relationship between a caring volunteer and a minor who is someone else’s child, good intentions and understandable motivations can sometimes cause us to slip and jeopardize our mentoring ethics. If you find yourself saying, “just this one time” chances are that you are about to stretch or break a mentoring boundary [...]

Essential Listening Tips

Develop​ ​the​ ​desire​ ​to​ ​listen​. Really listening to someone is a wonderful gift to give. Let​ ​the​ ​other​ ​person​ ​do​ ​most​ ​of​ ​the​ ​talking.​ ​ Applying the 70/30 rule ensures this will happen. You listen 70% of the time and you talk 30%. Avoid​ ​interrupting.​ There is always the temptation to interrupt so you can [...]

Consistency Is Cool

In formal mentoring relationships, consistency is connected to the longevity and quality of relationships. One of the greatest things an adult can do when working with young people is to be consistent. Young people are learning the nuances of the world and can often be confused by mixed messages. They value and need consistency in [...]

Being Present is the Present

At this time of year, mentors often ask “may I give my mentee a holiday gift?”  Seedling believes that you are the gift, along with the time and undivided attention you bestow on your mentee each week. However, if you elect to give your mentee a holiday present, we strongly encourage it to be relationship [...]

Beginning With The End In Mind

As we begin a new school year, some mentors are looking forward to reconnecting after a long summer apart. Others are looking forward to a new start, a new mentee, some mentoring for the first time, others being rematched. Whatever the case, new beginnings are a wonderful time to reflect and consider what exactly we’re [...]

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