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Reconnecting with your Mentee

Establishing a reconnection with your mentee after a break (holidays, summer, illness, etc.) is essential to nurturing your mentoring match. Whether you and your mentee have been matched for a few months or several years, there are steps you can take as a mentor to make sure that the two of you continue to strengthen your relationship upon reconnecting.

Rituals can be great tools for bonding. Many mentoring matches begin their visits by sharing any events that have happened since the last visit, and end visits by asking about any upcoming plans or events. Remember, this doesn’t have to be anything big. It can be checking in on how your mentee did on a project, or how a family visit went, or even how they liked a movie. If this type of check in doesn’t feel right for your match, that’s ok. You can develop rituals that better fit your match, even asking your mentee for any ideas they may have or choosing together from Seedling’s activities page. The important thing is to establish consistent rituals, since we know how much kids can benefit from routine and structure. 


One easy and fun way to reconnect after a prolonged visit is to spend some time together drawing your favorite highlight from your time apart over the break. No art degree is necessary, just bring some colored pencils/crayons/markers and paper and spend 5 minutes drawing together. Then take turns showing each other your drawings and telling the story behind it. Shared activities like these are engaging and simple ways to build strong bonds, and research tells us that taking part in shared, fun activities focusing on relationship building is one of the best ways to ensure a successful mentoring experience for mentor and mentee.

Whatever ways you and your mentee choose to engage when reconnecting, remember that in the role of mentor you are there to be a supportive, empathetic friend. Research shows that the strongest and most beneficial matches to youth are those where common interests and authenticity are at the forefront of the relationship. Be yourself, be a friend, and have fun together. When you follow those steps, reconnecting after a break comes naturally like catching up with an old (or young!) friend.

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